Saturday, November 12, 2005 @ 11/12/2005 11:25:00 PM
| A lesn learnt |
I cant believe i received that phone call. The following account is abt a phone call made to me by a colleague, male, ard 29 or 30 yrs old, status: desperate.
He called when i was out wif adr. Then he started by say " hey, hao mah?" Then he beat ard the bush in a very unfrenly tone. It didnt take me long to realise that he did not have the intention to make it a frenly chat. He accused me of bad-mouthing abt him to his newly found gf with the attempt of trying to brain wash her to leave him or something like that lah. That's the impression i've got. OMG. Like i have all the time in the world. He said that he appreciate my concern for her but this is not the time.
This jus shows how much confidence he has in this r/s. He asked me to behave like an adult (when he's not behavin like one) then he asked me how would i feel if he were to bad mouth me infront of adr. I TOLD him that i did not do it, and i cant be bothered if he were to talk to adr (how bt talking to my mum?) because i have nothing to be afraid of. Nothing i do is against my conscience that's why im not afraid. And i think its really childish to come up with this suggestion in the first place.
I spoke to the gf - A (in short) out of true concern. She had probs in her relationship and becos of him, she left her ex of 6 yrs. Haiz.. i think its true madness. I admit that i talked to her abt her r/s and her current one. I reminded her abt things that she mite have missed. Things like how the others might view her, how it could affect her and so on and she agreed with me. BUT i also made sure that i did not try to persuade her to leave him or wadsoever. BECAUSE:
1. It is none of my biz
2. It is not right to do that
3. It serves me no gd. Its not as if im interested in him lor!!
Throughout my conversation with her at work was mostly on wad MIGHT happen and maybe stuff like wad she might wanna look out for. And all these was because she approached me to talk to me. Now i realised why he refused to let her join our gal's nite out on Thursday aft the dept outing.
I mean, come on lah, dun be a loser. The phone call only shows how much confidence he has and also shows that he really has sth to hide. If i were to say bad things abt him intentionally, she wont be the only one whom i will tell and also the agenda of the conversation would be really different. Maybe i should try to BAD MOUTH him so that he will know the difference. But he is condemned enough ard the staff rm more than he knows. I knew some of his shameless history but i jus listen. If i were to BAD MOUTH, then she will come to know abt it.
I think the gal is FUcked up as well. She treated me like a close fren and told me her stuff. I never once let the rest in the group know abt her personal stuff, though we joke abt her and the loser, speculate how they would be and stuff like that out of fun. I think he's really a big time loser. The way he handled this situation and his r/s is truly fucked up.
As i've always believed, that i would rather have a true and sincere but nasty and mean fren than to have a nice but fake colleague. I knew long ago that all his 'gentleman-ness' are fake. He did it to impress. Not to really be nice to you. Too bad. Now my entire network is going to know abt this loser and his actions. And how i hope i distribute my blog address in the mass mail and send it ard the office. haha.
The classiscs:
' do you noe my r/s with her now' ' can be behave like an adult' ' do you want me to tell adr'.
Im not affected as in sad or guilty. Because i did not do anything against my conscience. It was mere concern that i wanna show my fren (or my ex-fren, now colleague only). I was there to help her when she was slow in her work or blur in the things she needed to do when he was even slower than her during the period of datelines. Haizz... havin heard of all the irresponsible stuff abt him, i really wonder how long they will last.
Im goin to share the story with everyone so that they can learn frm my lesn and keep away from them. I still rem how she always ask me if we will all hate her if they were an item. Because im not the only one who thinks that he's a loser. I always told her that it was her choice and it has nothing to do with me. Im her fren and i also noe that i have no right to meddle with her affairs. I believe that it is not 100% her will to be with him, it was jus like a "right time" thingy for him. That's why he is so afraid that she might get brain washed. But also, she also fucked up lah. She mis-interpreted or rather, deep in her heart she knows that this was not a gd choice, so she purposely quote me and linked my words to her conclusion. The fact that she allowed him to do such things shows how weak she can be and how much control he can have on her.
Anyway. I would be damn hapy if this is read by the wrong ppl. COS I DUN GIVE A DAMN. if you have done nothing wrong, dun be afraid. TIme will tell. If u have something against ur conscience that's jus too bad for you. Do not think that i will get intimidated by your phonecall cos i was not, i am not and i will not be. Cos u're such a big loser big big time. There is so much abt you goin round the office and yet you still think that you're perfect.
One incident abt this arrogant guy: There was once we were havin lunch. He was talking abt pay scale, ranking blah blah blah. then he said that up to a certain pt, one's pay can increase monthly. I do not know how true this is. So i asked ' really meh?' Then he said, " Do you need me to show you my pay slip?" EXACT WORDS TRANSLATED INTO ENGLISH. Fine loh.
You may be earning more. But you are not better off. Because you have a fucked up life, fucked up attitude, fucked up looks, and finally, a fucked up gf.
Up til now aft almost 48 hrs, even when im bloggin abt this, im wondering in amazement how a 30 yr old can behave like this. Haizz... How being a desperado can force someone out of his mind.
A new lesn learnt:
TO dot: Not everyone likes to have a fren who can wake him/her up in crisis. There are ppl who loves to listen to lies to make them happy. But im glad i've always have u ard to give me a SLAM on my head all the time aft the ever lasting, never ending complain sessions. haha
To adr: Im glad things have more or less settle betwn us. No more violent wars. I learn to appreciate things cos not everyone can have a r/s like us - Cos we know each other well enough, we learn frm all the wars and persevered through the tough times.
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